We all know the feeling; we cuddle up next to our significant other at night and try to drift off. However, your partner’s tossing and turning keep you up all night long. Or maybe you are the one keeping your spouse up with loud snoring or restless legs.
It’s a common issue that most couples have. And without a good night sleep, it affects how you approach your relationship. That’s why more married couples consider a “sleep divorce” – a shared decision where couples sleep in separate beds.
Sounds like a divorce waiting to happen
There is a negative stigma surrounding couples who sleep separately. Most people perceive it as a warning sign for a looming separation. However, there are several benefits to sleeping apart. According to Psychology Today, separate beds allows spouses to customize their bed to personal preferences, such as a colder temperature, more blankets or a firmer mattress.
It also allows partners to sleep when it is convenient for them. Most couples report that their spouse keeps them up longer than desired due to using their cellphone, watching television or reading. With a separate bed, you can sleep when it works best for your body.
That’s amazing! Let’s buy another mattress
While the benefits sound amazing, there are drawbacks to sleeping separately. For most couples, bedtime is a crucial period to bond with their spouse or reconnect after a stressful day. If you sleep in different beds or rooms, you lose out on that essential bonding time.
There is also a problem with physical intimacy. Most couples tend to have sex between 11 p.m. and 1 a.m., and if you are separated from your partner, it makes it trickier to maintain a healthy sex life. It also limits your ability to cuddle or spend time together after physical intimacy.
Ultimately, it’s up to you and your spouse to evaluate the benefits and drawbacks to separate beds. Different beds could save your marriage or lead you one step closer to divorce court. It depends on where your relationship currently stands.
Your insurance policy
If you are on a spouse’s medical or life insurance, you want to update to reflect the change in your relationship status. You could name another relative or your child to receive your insurance benefits instead, or you can just remove your former partner from your policy. Oftentimes, it only takes one phone call and a few documents to make this change.
Your legal name
Most people want to revert to their maiden name or change their surname after a divorce. Luckily, it’s a simple process in Missouri. First, you need to file a petition for a change of name and possibly have a hearing in court. Once you complete the hearing, the judge either allows you to change your name or not. If you receive permission, you will need to update your license and any other accounts attached to your previous name.
Once you update all these details, you are finally done with your divorce. You may still have to deal with your former significant other if you have children or share assets, but you can finally breathe a sigh of relief because you are officially starting your new life.