On behalf of Jacquelyn S. Gonz, Attorney at Law LLC posted in child custody on Monday, April 15, 2019.
Divorces bring out the worst behavior in people. It breeds an environment for tension as parents divide time with children and split half of their assets, but one of the worst ways divorces affects our behavior is our parenting styles.
It’s not surprising that many parents pick up “helicopter parenting” after a tough divorce, but how do you avoid the parenting style?
Recognize the signs of a helicopter crash
- Overly concerned with your child’s safety – Every parent wants to keep their children safe, but a helicopter parent often does this to a fault. It prevents their children from experiencing normal activities.
- Completing your child’s homework for them – Helicopter parents often want their children to succeed, but they will do anything to ensure that happens, including doing their school work for them.
- You are a cook, maid and parent all in one – You never think to ask your child to help with cleaning or cooking. Instead, you take on all the chores and meals because you worry about your child’s safety.
- You’ll do whatever you have to for your child – Every parent wants to ensure the best for their kid. But you go an extra mile to assure that your kid gets on the sports team they want, the college they applied for or the activity they demand.
- You tend to speak for your child – While someone asks your child a question, you will speak for them and answer on their behalf. You want to make sure everyone has the “facts straight.”
These are only a few signs of problematic helicopter parenting; it’s up to you to monitor how you are acting towards your child and how to prevent the behavior from continuing.
How to steer the helicopter in the right direction
Luckily, there are ways you can correct helicopter parenting and guide yourself back on track. First, establish realistic expectations for your family. Develop rules that will keep your children safe, while letting them develop into functioning young adults..
Next, realize you are not perfect, and you do not need to be. Parents strive to be the best role model for their children but feel inadequate. Kids don’t need a perfect parent; they need parents who are there for them and provide the tools to be the best version of themselves.