On behalf of Jacquelyn S. Gonz, Attorney at Law LLC posted in Divorce on Thursday, March 28, 2019.

Relationships are intense, especially after you walk down the aisle. Not only are you adjusting to marriage, but you are also balancing your family, friends, job and personal interests. It’s not a surprise that many newlyweds find themselves arguing more after the wedding.

While disagreements between spouses are normal, you shouldn’t feel constant waves of negative emotions every time you come home from work. Eventually, your body won’t be able to respond to arguments properly, and you will be “emotional flooded.”

When emotions get high, the tension gets higher

Emotional flooding is the physical response our bodies have when we are emotionally overwhelmed. Emotional flooding at its most extreme point makes a person believe they cannot remember feeling any other emotions and won’t feel different again.

Many people who experience emotional flooding describe a physical sensation of being pulled into a vast ocean and falling deep under the surface of the water. Your emotions intensify, and you tend to act out of rage, fear or panic.

Psychologists say the physical sensation is the nervous system in overdrive. Our systems may react to intense emotions by alerting our internal threat-detection system; it’s very similar to our fight or flight response. Then, we lose some of the capability to act rationally and act based on our emotions.

If you are always fighting with your spouse, emotional flooding makes a small debate into a severe argument because emotional flooding brings the conversation to a new intensity that it wasn’t at before. Many couples try to address emotional flooding, but divorce before any results are clear.

A few ways to prevent emotional flooding during an argument is to take breaks, assess what is happening in your body, relax your mind through relaxation techniques and store a positive memory of your partner. The last technique helps you ground yourself in your relationship instead of getting caught up in the moment.

However, some relationships aren’t meant to last. Divorce may be the only option to help you regain peace over your body and emotions. If you feel this way, consider talking to a therapist or a close friend before making any decisions.